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Thứ Ba, 14 tháng 12, 2010

OPINION:SHOULD PARENTS SPANK THEIR CHILDREN?

Have you ever been spanked by your parents?How did you feel at that time?Surely,you were hurt your mind and body.Many parents think that spanking is a common way to set limits and a thought “effective” way to punish their children.However,in my opinion,parents shouldn’t spank their children because spanking not only creats a distance between parents and children but also makes children behave worse and more violent.
The first reason why parents shouldn’t spank their children is that increasing the distance between parents and children.Children will never share anything with their parents.Even,they tend to avoid their parents.Simply,parents are too angry and often lose the control,which leads to spank their children with or without any explanation.Therefore,children become afraid of their parents.They always worry that things they have done get wrong,and they will be spanked,so they don’t dare to say anything to their parents.They keep those things as their secrets.If parents ask them to tell,they will be under the pressure of spanking,which makes them tell a lie so that their parents satisfy and don’t spank them.Moreover,children don’t want to face to their parents at the meals,gathering at nights in oder to be ask for things they have done,so they keep silent or they are absent at that times.I had a friend,Lan,who really scared her mother because she was often spanked when she was young.She lost a pen and she was spanked.Then she lost another pen,and she didn’t dare to go home to say to her mother,so she came to my house.Her mother looked for her everywhere.Finally,my mother called her so as to take Lan back to home.And,she continued spanking Lan.Since then,Lan became taciturn and didn’t share anything with anyone anymore.If parents always listen and comment smartly,children will be happy and willing to share all things.However,many parents think that spanking helps them teach children quickly and effectively instead they sit a place and hear in a patient way,then give a long explanation.I think that spanking is a wrong solution.Spanking just makes children fear at that time.Even,they are spanked but they don’t know the reason why .They will hate their parents and maybe,they will make mistakes again.Moreover,in some countries,spanking children is against the law,so parents shouldn’t spank their children.Spanking children,parents won’t undestand children’s thinkings,know what they like…,which makes the distance between parents and children further and further
The second reason I want to mention is that children’s bad behaviour when they are spanked.If parents spank too much,children will react or be more violent.When parents rely on spanking as their primary form of discipline,children are less likely to do they are told,and their self-esteem drops,so they are at greater risk of psychological problems.That means they are more stubborn.Also,they think their parents don’t love them,even hate them,so they do many things without thinking,concerning about anyone.Many times I have heard parents say:”the more we spank,the more he misbehaves”.Spanking makes children’s behaviour worse,not better.For example,a child who is hit feels wrong inside and this shows up in his behaviour.The more he misbehaves,the more he gets spanked,the worse he feels.The cycle continues.Furthermore,children tend to become violent.There is a story about the mother who believed in spanking as a necessary part of discipline until one day she observed her three year old daughter hitting her one year old son.When confronted,her daughter said,”I am just playing mommy.”This mother never spanked another child.Children love to intimate,especially people whom they love and respect.They perceive that it’s okay for them to do whatever parents do.Moreover,children from spanking families are likely to use aggression to handle conflicts when they become adults.To children,spanking demonstrates that it is all right for people to hit people,especially for big people to hit little people,stronger people to hit weaker people.Children learn that when they are spanked by their parents.However,some people say that spanking is the only way to punish children and make them follow their parents.Personally,I think,like a kind of medicine,it will harm to children’s health if parents use it too much or in a wrong way.Parents want children to know they were wrong,but to still believe they are persons that have values,so instead of spanking children,parents regularly remind them of mistakes children often make.Spanking children doesn’t both stop them making mistakes again and even creat bad behaviour.
Spanking childen affects badly in relationship between parents and children and in children’s behaviour.Therefore,parents shouldn’t use spanking as a a way to teach their children.In short,parents should use other ways to train their children like listening and giving them good advice,especially standing by them when they make mistakes and need parents’help.

CAUSE AND EFFECT ESSAY

WHAT MAKES A SUCCESSFUL STUDENT LIFE?
In schools,everyone wants to be a successful student life.Their major goal is to get good marks,then have an excellent certificate,finally find a good job in the future.However,they have to know how to connect their study with other social activities so that they will have the best result.The factors that determine if they are successful student lives include studying hard and taking part in social activities.
In order to become a successful student life,a student must learn hard.More and more he studies so as to enrich his knowledge.He must spend as much as possible studying.Taking courses at classses,he needs to pay attention to lessons deeply.He has never free time to think about other matters that don’t relate to his study.Moreover,he spends most of time sitting in the library,even he steps out the library with many thick,big books in the hands and everywhere such as parks,bus stations,…After school,instead of relaxing by sleeping,eating or listening to music at all his free time,he just sleeps about 6 hours at nights and dines with noodles or other kinds of hot dog at studying table.To him,he always feels lack of time to study.The goal of his study,especially hard studying is to get good results after examinations and make knowledge become his.Therefore,hard studying leads to studying well and what he receives is a big chance to get a good job in the future.
The other factor that contributes to a successful student life is that he must join in some social activities.He won’t be successful if he just studies all day and all a school year.After class,attending to English clubs helps him widen his knowledge and gives him soft skills he needs.Instead of reading lines in books,he can practise things he has read when he joins in other activities.Also,he learns many things and gets more information from other people such as their knowledge,skills,…Furthermore,he is more active, confident.He can perform what he wants in front of many people without feeling shy.Especially,he will creat new relationships because he has more friends who can share with him many useful things.Hence,taking part in social activities gives him many skills,acquaintances from the outside society.They can help him and give useful advice for his future job.Besides,he has chances to practise from the real life instead of  just getting information from books but no experience.
Studying hard and taking part in social activities are two factors that make a successful student life.Students have to know how to balance between study time at school and free time for social activities in order to achieve the goal.